Topic: Need some advice about men

[bigbenjamin]

Advice about advice - if you need serious advice go to a qualified professional - serious relationships are complicated psychological minefields - going to a talented marriage counselor/psychiatrist 20 years ago saved my marriage (now in its 32nd year) and helped Mrs. B. and I understand our own true stories more clearly.

I mean friends, family and Dear Abby mean well, but take the life altering stuff to a good and compassionate shrink - in Canada (or at least my part of it) shrinks are 100% covered by universal medicare. Even if you have to pay, it is a bargain to do it right.

peaceful cheers

[SgtMeowsteen]

shrinks are 100% covered by universal medicare. Even if you have to pay, it is a bargain to do it right.

100% coverage for counseling in Canada ?????
Why did I ever leave ?

[pepperoni]

Men...

Can't live with em.....


Ya just cant live with em...

[diesel69]

Girl, you have given me kind advice before so I will try to do my best for you. You have to be with someone who you can PERSONALLY relate to, If that person does not meet up to that requirement DON'T go any further. Life is too short to be wrong, too many times. I know that we're all looking for that "special someone". I didn't find mine until just recently (the last 5 years) and I've been married for 7.
What I mean is....Love grows in its own demented way. Don't change the way you are as a person.....for anyone, If they truly love you......they will love you UNCONDITIONALLY.
Cheers
Darby

[KarateCollie]

Hey Diesel, great advice! Couldn't have said it better myself! Everyone should think about what you've said.

[Arlene]

Awe, diesel dont make me all weepy eyed in the morning! and me with no coffee in the system... that is the best and sweetest advice i have recieved in ages, thank you and i send you a big hug for saying it!

A

[Jdub]

Advice about advice - if you need serious advice go to a qualified professional - serious relationships are complicated psychological minefields - going to a talented marriage counselor/psychiatrist 20 years ago saved my marriage (now in its 32nd year) and helped Mrs. B. and I understand our own true stories more clearly.

I mean friends, family and Dear Abby mean well, but take the life altering stuff to a good and compassionate shrink - in Canada (or at least my part of it) shrinks are 100% covered by universal medicare. Even if you have to pay, it is a bargain to do it right.

peaceful cheers

Great advice BB!

 I think people feel hesitant to go see someone (counselor/psychiatrist) for direction in their life/relationship.  I mean c'mon...when you hear the word shrink there always seems to be a negative connotation to it.   This is the way I look at it.  When the car isn't running properly and you don't know how to fix it what do you do??  You take it to someone that has the talent and/or training to figure out the problem and fix it.   
  All things in your life are not going to run smoothly for whatever reason. You can either run your life on half it's cylinders or you can take it someone that can show you how to tweak it, to get it to it's full performance. 

OK, so I guess that would be my added advice on the advice of getting advice.....ha ha

Peace

[Arlene]

Posted on: May 03, 2006, 05:46 PMsee here is the thing, i know why my choices are the way they are, but vey now and then it is good to hear i am not a freak, that others think or expereinced some of the same and advice from friends is always welcome. been to the shrink, she was a joke and wanted to medicate me, dont need medication, fear the shrinks did not work for me....but the advice from people here have helped a thousand times and gave me a little, "hay i know what is right for me here" and the ability to tell dink man to leave me alone when he showed up on the door step a few days ago. for me, there is something wonderful in sharing stories, it is a true learning experience for me, at least. Plus if anyone knows how to pick a good shrink, i welcome it too!! God knows my judgment there sucks as well....

as for the meathead issue, well god seemed to have given me one! came home today to a very large, very handsome and very happy black lab tied to my door. now to find me a handsome and sweet geek....who is good in bed....and can fix my computer.....not too much to ask eh?  
A

[Julians_Wife]

I don't think I'll be dating any men any time soon, even though I would like to ....... I have had two men show interest in me but neither are doing any good at the follow through, you're either interested or you're not, plain and simple. So for now I've given up all hope on dating men, i don't need a man to make me 100% happy, that I've learned but it would be nice to find a decent guy and I guess right now, that's just not going to happen for me, so I'll just continue to work my ass off.

[kitty meiowenstein]

"Advice about advice - if you need serious advice go to a qualified professional - serious relationships are complicated psychological minefields - going to a talented marriage counselor/psychiatrist 20 years ago saved my marriage (now in its 32nd year) and helped Mrs. B. and I understand our own true stories more clearly.

I mean friends, family and Dear Abby mean well, but take the life altering stuff to a good and compassionate shrink - in Canada (or at least my part of it) shrinks are 100% covered by universal medicare. Even if you have to pay, it is a bargain to do it right.

peaceful cheers"

thanks Ben. If anyone wants me to listen, I'm a trainee counselling psychologist. But first and foremost a friend.

[Arlene]

kitty,

if you ever wanna take a crack at me, by all means!!

a

[tan]

  well my advice just got burried over by good advice....i still say kill it....lmao out of sight out of mind 

        no ok imma be serious now....although i have thought evil things through bad relationships i have had.....it still boils down to me....i mean i either walk away do something productive and move on or stay to continue being in an aweful position, and yes it is tough most times....and alot of the times it saddens me when i do see women get all hung up on men like its the end of the world.....i am not perfect...i come with alot of baggage ..dealing with anxiety issues being agoraphobic for over 6 years.....and if I can find peace and happiness with the crummy little life i lead and find strength to keep fighting each day hoping for a better tomorrow ANYONE can do it also....and i know you will find a way to resolve this arlene....and move on abd be a stronger more confident person.....cause everyone has problems at time....ya jsut gotta find yourself....be happy and live life to its fullest even thought it seems to suck at times...cause ya worth it

and besides what don't kill ya makes ya stronger and wiser for the next fuckhead ya meet 

tan
hope things work out for ya....and ya can always revert to kill it and plead insanity...lmao

[Julians_Wife]

kitty,

if you ever wanna take a crack at me, by all means!!

a

Kitty is a GREAT person to talk to Arlene, I have had the pleasure of speaking with her and she's an awesome listener ;o)

[tan]

kitty,

if you ever wanna take a crack at me, by all means!!

a

Kitty is a GREAT person to talk to Arlene, I have had the pleasure of speaking with her and she's an awesome listener ;o)

hey JW think she'd know what to do with me....lmao